ven if you’re with a big-mouthed, bigger-balls-than-yours sort of woman who puts her independence before any other aspect in her life, trust us, she still wants you to take charge in the bedroom. At least sometimes anyway. Unfortunately, many men are a bit afraid to do so for fear of coming across as–for lack of a better word–‘r@pey.’ The trick here is to start slow. Don’t pull out the whips and chains before you’ve tried a simple playing around with ‘looser’ restraints. It’s never a good idea to bark orders at her or call her a ‘slut’ right from the start.
The transition might be a little too drastic to cope with and you don’t want to risk putting her off. Quick tip: Be commanding but sensitive to her responses. The balance will have her begging for more.
We say ‘light’ in the hopes that we don’t get branded as an s&m-promoting website but really, a reasonable amount of women like it as rough as you can give it too. But don’t go there unless you’ve worked your way up or you might get more than a playful punch in your faceÂ Before you get too excited about ‘smacking your b**** up,’ start light. Despite the fact that your mothers have brought you up to be a tad more gentleman-like than this, know that it’s fantastic foreplay. It can feel amazing for both of you and women in particular tend to claim that that’s the kind of roughing up that sends tingles to all the right places. Quick tip: Though we promise you they love it, most feel to embarrassed to ask for it for fear of how it sounds. It’s up to you to break this barrier. Â Also, try and refrain from causing bruising or INJURY of any sort!
This is a very grey area and once again, if you jump the gun, you could find yourself out of a great session between the sheets, as well as a girlfriend! But let’s not make any bones about it–women love dirty talk. And men almost never give it to them. You become the first in her life to provide her with this secret sensual desire and chances are, she’s never going to let you go!Â The reason is simple. Women are imaginative, vocal creatures. And they don’t want to hear your flowery sweet nothings whispered into their ears–many want you to be downright twisted. Be very basic about it, ask her if she likes what you’re doing, what her fantasies are etc. and gauge her responses before you march on like a good soldier. Heavier, quicker breathing are sure fire signs that she wants more but if she turns away from you or stiffens up a bit, stop right there. Quick tip: This one really could go either way, so tread carefully!
Yes, we know we said they want you to take charge but haven’t you learned anything about women–they want it all! Not that there’s anything wrong with changing things up in the bedroom eery once in a while and adding in some new heat. We already know that a surprising majority of men seriously dig ‘the cowgirl’ or ‘girl on top’ position and this is the best way to make her feel as though she’s in control of what’s going on. Let her be in charge and more importantly, make her feel as though she’s in charge. Be responsive too, let her know that what she’s doing is really working for you, dig your fingers into her back let her have her way with you. Win-win situation for both parties involved? We certainly think so. Quick tip: Once she’s had a fair amount of time taking the reigns, switch it up to dominate her without warning. The sudden transition will leave her hot and heavy for you.
4.Kiss Her During the Act
A surprisingly large number of women complain that men tend to get lost in their own world while making love, entirely ignoring them and making no effort whatsoever to kiss while still engaging in s*x. Women are emotional (surprise surprise) and as much as this article has told you they’d like to be bruised and beaten (lightly of course) it’s all about maintaining the perfect balance. Everything comes in pairs and it would be nice if every once in a while, you could show her you’re making an effort to please her between the sheets–both physically and emotionally
This one’s a little tricky. For some reason, the entire male population has a strange and ill-defined relationship with female genitalia. They expect 0ral s*x for themselves but rarely return the sentiment to women, in the right way anyway. Once you’ve got your technique down (which is vital because it’s so easy to get wrong) be generous. Endow your woman with the kind of foreplay she deserves. Quick tip: Not all women like this act performed the same way. You’ll have to experiment a little bit, gauge her reaction and figure out what she likes best. Again, communication is your best friend, ask her what she likes and get it right. Nothing will satisfy her more.
Ok men, time to sit up and take some serious notes. We said it before and we’ll say it again, women are vocal beings. Moan with pleasure when they do something you like, tell them they look amazing, tell them what you’d like to do to them and ask for what you’d like to be done to you. You’ll find the more open you are about s*x with your partner, the better and better it gets. Don’t let your ego get in the way and drop all those walls. Quick tip: Don’t be to aggressive about the communication, let it flow naturally.
7.A Little Exhibitionism
We’re not sure who invented the myth that all women are prudes but it’s a downright lie. Few things get a woman going as fast as the risk of getting caught so take her by surprise. Pull her into an entirely unexpected space (read: public bathrooms, in the kitchen, on your dining table etc.) hike her skirt up and give it to her right then and there. Quick tip: Make sure the chances of you actually getting caught are slim. No quicker way to kill the mood than being caught by an inappropriate figure!
8.Fantasy Findingâ€¦And Indulging!
Ah, to delve into the depths of a woman’s mind is a strange and beautiful thing. This is going to be a very telling experiment but if things go according to plan, your s*x life is never going to be the same again. It’s going to be about a 1000 times better in fact. All women have fantasies and they want the man in their life to indulge them. Of course, societal perceptions and the fear that you’ll be put off by them if they told you themselves makes it a little hard to probe them about it. Be persistent though because once you know what it is, you can WORK ON indulging every last fantasy. A favor they’ll only be too happy to return in the future we’re sure. Quick tip: Be prepared for anything. The dark trenches of a woman’s mind hold all sorts of possibilities and it might be a bit of a pandora’s box if you open it up entirely! Still, if at any point you feel uncomfortable doing something she fantasizes about, just be upfront and tell her the same. She’ll be glad you did and appreciate your honesty
Save this one for last because it actually is bordering on s & m. If and only if, everything else on this list has worked well in your favor, feel free to venture into this slightly darker world of s*xual fantasy. Surprisingly, many women we’ve encountered have this one right up on their list of secret bedroom desires. Soâ€¦let the mild asphyxiation, hair pulling, tying up and skin scraping begin.
Quick tip: There’s no hard and fast rule here–you don’t necessarily have to be the aggressor on every occasion and also, pick her up and throw her around a bit. There’s nothing she’ll love more than that.